spices of life. :)

Bismillah

Asalamualikum

Sesungguhnya Iman ini amat lemah.

Sesungguhnya diri ini terlalu banyak kekurangannya.

Baru sahaja beberapa hari yang lepas ana memberi tazkirah kepada akhowat yang lain mengenai menjaga hubungan dengan ibu bapa dan betapa Islam menekankan tentang adab anak terhadap ibu bapanya.

Betapa besarnya dan lumayannya ganjaran Allah (SWT) kepada mereka yang menjaga hubungan dengan ibu bapa.

… dan betapa dahsyatnya pula azab Allah (SWT) kepada mereka yang tidak menjaga hubungan dengan kedua ibu bapanya, dalam perkataan lain iaitu derhaka kepada ibu bapa.

Hari ini, ana diberi pengajaran sekaligus membuka mata ana bahawa bukan senang untuk menjadi seorang muslimah yang ’sebenar-benarnya’. Bukanlah ana bermaksud niat ana untuk berubah itu semakin rapuh. Bahkan ana menyedari, ana kekurangan ilmu dan terlalu banyak lagi yang ana perlu belajar.

“Giving up is not an option, you have to fight it!”

Hari ini, ana telah terkeluar daripada batasan yang ditetapkan oleh Islam dalam menjaga hubungan dengan ibu bapa. Walaupun pada pendapat sesetengah orang tidak mengapa sekali-sekala memberontak tetapi cuba selidik semula ajaran Islam dalam adab menghormati ibu bapa.

Rasa di tampar muka ana (Background song – Tamparan Wanita by Elite) apabila terdengar pula DJ di radio Nur Islam membincangkan tentang menjaga hubungan dengan ibu bapa. Inilah teguran daripada Allah (SWT) ana mengagak. Dan inilah tarbiyyah daripada Allah (SWT).

“It is when you experience it and made mistakes from it that you’ll learn.”

Tentang penjagaan hubungan dengan kedua ibu bapa kita sering kali di tekankan di dalam Al-Quran, malahan hubungan dengan ibu bapa seringkali disebutkan selepas hubungan dengan Allah (SWT). Ketara sangatlah bahawa Allah (SWT) benar-benar menitik beratkan tentang adab kita terhadap kedua orang tua.

1. Sembahlah Allah (SWT) dan janganlah kamu mempersekutukan-Nya dengan sesuatu pun. Dan berb
uat baiklah kepada dua orang ibu-bapa, karib-kerabat, anak-anak yatim, orang-orang miskin, tetangga yang dekat dan tetangga yang jauh, teman sejawat, ibnu sabil dan hamba sahayamu. Sesungguhnya Allah (SWT) tidak menyukai orang-orang yang sombong dan membangga-banggakan diri, (4:36)
2. Katakanlah: “Marilah kubacakan apa yang diharamkan atas kamu oleh Tuhanmu, yaitu: janganlah kamu mempersekutukan sesuatu dengan Dia, berbuat baiklah terhadap kedua orang ibu bapa, dan janganlah kamu membunuh anak-anak kamu karena takut kemiskinan…. (6:151)

Sebagaimana pentingnya peranan anak kepada ibu bapanya, lebih penting lagilah peranan seorang anak terhadap ibunya.

1. Dan Kami perintahkan kepada manusia (berbuat baik) kepada dua orang ibu-bapaknya; ibunya telah mengandungnya dalam keadaan lemah yang bertambah-tambah, dan menyapihnya dalam dua tahun. Bersyukurlah kepada-Ku dan kepada dua orang ibu bapakmu, hanya kepada-Kulah kembalimu.
Dan jika keduanya memaksamu untuk mempersekutukan dengan Aku sesuatu yang tidak ada pengetahuanmu tentang itu, maka janganlah kamu mengikuti keduanya, dan pergaulilah keduanya di dunia dengan baik, dan ikutilah jalan orang yang kembali kepada-Ku, kemudian hanya kepada-Kulah kembalimu, maka Ku-beritakan kepadamu apa yang telah kamu kerjakan. (31:14-15)

2. Kami perintahkan kepada manusia supaya berbuat baik kepada dua orang ibu bapaknya, ibunya mengandungnya dengan susah payah, dan melahirkannya dengan susah payah (pula). Mengandungnya sampai menyapihnya adalah tiga puluh bulan, sehingga apabila dia telah dewasa dan umurnya sampai empat puluh tahun ia berdoa: “Ya Tuhanku, tunjukilah aku untuk mensyukuri nikmat Engkau yang telah Engkau berikan kepadaku dan kepada ibu bapakku dan supaya aku dapat berbuat amal yang saleh yang Engkau ridai; berilah kebaikan kepadaku dengan (memberi kebaikan) kepada anak cucuku. Sesungguhnya aku bertobat kepada Engkau dan sesungguhnya aku termasuk orang-orang yang berserah diri”. (46:15)

Nabi Muhammad SAW juga sangat memuliakan kedudukan seorang ibu sepertimana disabdakan oleh baginda;

1. Aisyah berkata, “Aku bertanya kepada Rasululah S.A.W. siapa yang lebih besar
haknya terhadap wanita?” jawab Rasulullah S.A.W. “suaminya”. “Siapa pula berhak
terhadap lelaki?” “Ibunya”.

2. Apabila memanggil akan engkau 2 orang ibu bapamu, maka jawablah ibumu.

3. Syurga itu di bawah tapak kaki ibu.

Over 1400 years ago, one of the companions of Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) (peace be upon him)

asked him who the most deserving person of his kindness and his companionship was.


The Prophet (p) said, “Your mother.”

The man asked, “Then whom?”

He said, “Your mother.”

The man asked for the third time, “Then whom?”

The Prophet (p) said, “Your mother.

The man asked for the fourth time, “Then whom?”

The Prophet (p) said “Your father.”


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Alhamdulillah… Ana sudah berbaik dengan Ummi selepas beberapa jam saling mendiamkan diri. (menyamal lah tuuu…) :D For more info about respect towards our  mothers, kindly refer to my previous post – My Mother.

Dan Tuhanmu telah memerintahkan supaya kamu jangan menyembah selain Dia dan hendaklah kamu berbuat baik pada ibu bapakmu dengan sebaik-baiknya. Jika salah seorang di antara keduanya atau kedua-duanya sampai berumur lanjut dalam pemeliharaanmu, maka sekali-kali janganlah kamu mengatakan kepada keduanya perkataan “ah” dan janganlah kamu membentak mereka dan ucapkanlah kepada mereka perkataan yang mulia.

Dan rendahkanlah dirimu terhadap mereka berdua dengan penuh kesayangan dan ucapkanlah: “Wahai Tuhanku, kasihilah mereka keduanya, sebagaimana mereka berdua telah mendidik aku waktu kecil”.

(17: 23-24)

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treasure from Facebook! :)

Bismillah

Asalamualikum

I wish there’s this sort of advanced technology, where we could just say what we wanna blog about and it will automatically be typed here! 

You wish Nads! :P

So, my point here is that.. I haven’t really got the inspiration to blog and the position of my Iman now is Iman Yan’kush :( Oh noo! Yes, I’m trying to boost up my Iman and I just found something from the Quran just now. So, I am now motivated! Yay! Alhamdulillah, Ya Rabb. :D

So, as I was ‘looking around’ at my Facebook, I found this. 

It helped me and I hope it would be a help to you too. :)

Want to get closer to Allah (SWT),

but don’t know how!


In many Islamic circles or presentations, I am asked a similar question from my brothers and sisters: “I want to get closer to Allah (SWT), but don’t know how; or I don’t have the power to do it. Sometimes I can succeed in getting close to Him when I spend time with pious friends who are affecting me, but when they are no longer around, I lose that closeness. I become powerless.”

Allah (SWT), the Exalted is the Best to respond to this concern:

(When My servants ask thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I listen to the prayer of every suppliant when he calls on Me: let them also, with a will, listen to My call, and believe in Me: that they may walk in the right way.) (Al-Baqarah 2:186)

As Muslims, we believe in the Word of Allah (SWT), then should we not believe in the above verse? Of course we want to believe, but what truly keeps us from believing it in our hearts and feeling it when we make supplications?

If we can imagine there is a beautiful scenery in front of us, but there is also a curtain or veil between us and the scene. We can have a glimpse of the beauty on the other side, but not all. We want to see it all, but we keep sitting in our place and do not get up to move the curtain aside so we can have a full view.

Removing the veil or curtain takes the following efforts:

First, there must be a desire;

Second, the knowhow;

Third, keeping it open for full view at all times.

Sometimes people think of wanting to be close to Allah (SWT), but the desire is not strong enough. Faith is like a seed. It must be planted in fertile soil and watered. It is a process that would take time and determination.

To begin with, we must observe the most important duty Allah (SWT) has prescribed to us,

Actions must lead to the cleansing of the heart of all that is displeasing to Allah (SWT). This might not be easy, especially for the younger generation. which is devotion and worship. This is the first step for achieving closeness to Allah (SWT)

In a Qudsi hadith the Prophet reported that Allah (SWT) says,

“..my servant does not come closer to Me with anything more dear to Me than that which I made obligatory upon him. My servant keeps coming closer to Me with more volunteer deeds, until I love him. When I love him, I become His ear by which he hears, his eyes by which he sees, his hand by which he holds and his foot by which he walks. If he asks Me anything I shall give him. If he seeks My protection I shall grant him My protection… “(Al-Bukhari 6021)

While performing correct worship, one must choose the way to piety and righteousness mentioned in the hadith; a major step of getting closer to Him the Almighty. The person who has taqwa or piety, is the one who is foremost in doing good and wants to be ahead of others in goodness.

(And the foremost are the foremost. These are they who are drawn nigh (to Allah (SWT)). In the gardens of bliss.)(Al-Waqi`ah 56:10-12)

He remembers his humility in front of Allah (SWT), and knows he can call on Him with hope and fear. He desires much closeness to Him.

(Call on your Lord with humility and in private: for Allah (SWT) loves not those who trespass beyond bounds. Do no mischief on the earth, after it hath been set in order, but call on Him with fear and longing (in your hearts): for the Mercy of Allah (SWT) is (always) near to those who do good.) (Al-A`raf 7:55, 56)

Naturally, this person also knows that charity is another way to bring him closer to his Creator, for Allah (SWT) loves those who give to the needy from their wealth and hates the hard fisted.

In a Qudsi hadith the Prophet reported that Allah (SWT) says,

“Allah (SWT) will say on the Day of Judgment, … O son of Adam, I asked you for food and you fed Me not. He will say: O Lord, and how should I feed You when You are the Lord of the worlds? He will say: Did you not know that My servant so and so asked you for food and you fed him not? Did you not know that had you fed him you would surely have found that with Me? O son of Adam, I asked you to give Me to drink and you gave Me not to drink. He will say: O Lord, how should I give You to drink when You are the Lord of the worlds? He will say: My servant so and so asked you to give him to drink and you gave him not to drink. Had you given him to drink you would have surely found that with Me.” (Muslim)

This person does all right deeds in order to bring himself closer to his Creator. If he does all this and still does not feel as close to Allah (SWT) as he wants then he might look at his environment and those he befriends and the condition of his lifestyle. Are his/her friends neglectful of Allah (SWT) and often engage in idle talk or activities which Allah (SWT) dislike? Are members of his family busy spending most of their time at home in front of TV watching programs Allah (SWT) dislikes and he participates with them? Are friends and family the cause of his weakness in religion? Is he/she dressed properly according to Islamic mose of dress as he/she likes? 

The influence of a close friend is greater than one can imagine. One must take heed who he chooses as a close friend. Knowing our tendencies to incline to people and the worldly life, Allah (SWT) warns us not to get side tracked.

( O ye who believe let not your riches or your children divert you from the Remembrance of Allah (SWT) if any act thus, the loss is their own.) (Al-Munafiqun 63:9)

Actions must lead to the cleansing of the heart of all that is displeasing to Allah (SWT). This might not be easy, especially for the younger generation. Yet they must remember they are the torchbearers of Islam and they are the ones who can influence their peers better than older people. What a better blessing is it than one knowing that he is doing all he can to gain the pleasure of his Creator?

(Thus, then, if he be of those Nearest to Allah (SWT), there is for him Rest and Satisfaction, and a Garden of Delights.) (Al-Waqi`ah 56:88,89)

To maintain closeness with Allah (SWT), besides the above recommendations, one may engage in Dhikr or remembrance of Allah (SWT) as often as one can

( O ye who believe remember Allah (SWT) very often and glorify Him morning and evening.) (Al-Ahzab 33:41,42)

Dhikr empties the heart and the mind of impurities and brings a meaningful satisfaction to one’s life.

(Behold in the Remembrance of Allah (SWT) do hearts find satisfaction.) (Ar-Ra`d 13: 28)

Finally, since we believe in the Word of Allah (SWT), we find the solution of closeness to our Creator is given to us by Him.

(Therefore remember Me, I will remember you.) (Al-Baqarah 2:152)

By Raya Shokatfard 

Freelance Writer — Egypt 

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“Whoever guides [another] to a good deed will get a reward similar to the one who performs it.” Prophet Mohammad (SAWS) (PBUH)[Sahih Muslim]

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